For Male Transgenders, It’s All About Perception




Mary Jane gave permission to share her post. Thanks Mary Jane! 😊 💚

I have been dealing with trans activists for … well over a decade now and I can tell you, without a doubt, that the “bathroom issue” is not about “just needing to pee.” It is completely, 100% about perception.

Men who desire, actually demand to use women’s restrooms (and to be admitted into all women-only spaces) do so because they wish to be perceived as women. If it were actually about their safety, because they are attacked in the men’s restroom, then (a) this country would finally be able to have an honest discussion about male violence; and (b) these men would be ok with a single stall “gender neutral” or “family” restroom.

But they are not ok with that. They see it as an insult, as if they are not actually viewed as women.

See? Perception.

Instead, they accuse women like me – a feminist who puts women first – of violenceand hate (as a gay male friend of mine did on my Facebook, when I posted this there) , not the men they claim to be so afraid of in the men’s restroom. Women like me are labeled “TERFs” – for those who don’t know, that is supposed to mean, “trans exclusionary radical feminist” (or for some of the more violent of these men, they use “extermatory” instead of “exclusionary,” to deflect their own violent behavior onto women who are not being violent) – and we, along with our opinions, are written off as women who are violent, whose voices don’t count, who should be hated and reviled. These men (and women) can do all of that just by calling any woman who speaks out or with whom they do not agree, TERFs.

See, TERF is like a modern day witch and these men and their followers are on “witch hunts.” Women all over are afraid to speak their truths because (a) a LOT of these men claiming to be women are violent; and (b) they are afraid of being labeled a TERF; a term that will both silence and ostracize them, once they are labeled as such.

I take great issue with the slur, TERF, and I have written about it no less than twice on my blog.

First, a term like this is actually used as a slur and therefore should not even be used at all. Almost always, the person using the slur is using it to be violent toward the woman at whom they are tossing the slur, as in: “all TERFs should die in a fire (diaf)”, “kill all TERFs,” “all TERFs should be round up and shot, along with their friends,” etc. I can provide screen shots of such violence and there are also websites dedicated to showing the world the violence behind the use of TERF, such as

Second, it is not an accurate term, at all; in that, I mean that (a) the people who use this slur against women – & I have to say “people” there because, unfortunately, it isn’t just men who use this slur against women, women who put men first in their lives also use this slur against other women – use it against ALL women, not just radfems.

For example: although I am, among other things, a gender abolitionist, I am not a radfem, yet posting something like this in public will have people calling me a TERF. I have been called a TERF many times, usually with violent rhetoric involved; and (b) we feminists are not “trans” exclusionary (or especially extermatory, since we are not violent & wish for everyone to be free of violence!), we are *men* exclusionary.

By that, I mean that we believe that men should not be allowed into women-only spaces, period. If a woman wants to call herself a man & go into the men’s restrooms or other men-only spaces, more power to her! Because these women are not violent pervs! They are not pretending to be men so that they may violate, assault, or rape men. Oh, I know, not all men are violent, therefore not all men claiming to be women are violent.

But (a) studies show that men claiming to be women are just as prone to violence as other men, (b) while not all of them are violent, enough of them are that we need sex segregated spaces (have you heard the “poisoned M&Ms” story?), and (c) not all violent and perverted men going into women’s restrooms for nefarious purposes are transgenders, but now, all they need to do is claim to be women & the doors are supposed to swing wide open!

As I said, not all of them are violent – and I need to add something here, because I thought that I did, but I don’t see it….. women like me, we are not filled with hate on this issue. We believe that transgenders should be able to have the same basic rights as all others. To be able to live as they are without the fear of (or the threat of) violence, to be able to live as they wish to without the threat of eviction, being fired, or being denied healthcare. But basic human rights should not extend into and replace the rights of others, of women.

Of course, when men don’t want women in their spaces, they have a tendency to become violent and the women leave; and these men are not called TERFs, ever – their request for man-only space is respected!

But I digress! Coming back to perception, these men want to be welcomed into women-only spaces because in their minds, they will then be seen as women, finally!

Even though a vast majority of them (if I remember correctly, the number is up over 80%) do not even bother w/the surgery and most of them (over half) don’t even bother w/hormones. They are just men calling themselves women & *poof* they’re supposed to be seen and treated as women. Oh and we better damn well be able to read their minds and know they are women or we’re gonna see some tantrums and maybe even some violence!

Tantrums and violence that you won’t see from me and butches like me who are “misgendered” – actually, the appropriate term would be “missexed” – all. the fucking. time!! Seriously, the woman that I am is so invisible to most people, but you don’t see me getting violent, threatening people, calling them names, suing them, going to the papers so they could do a story on my being missexed…. you will see none of that from me and butch women like me, simply because people think I’m a dude!

So, these men do not “just have to pee” or “just need to change” or “just want to listen to the festival’s musical talents” or anything else.

No, this is not simply because they want to quietly live “as women.” They have actual narcissistic reasons for basically forcing their way into women-only spaces and forcing their propaganda down our throats. Nope, they are trying to beat us into submission over this issue, not because they want to use the restroom or even bc they want to be safe while visiting a restroom; they do it bc they want to force everyone to share in their delusions, they want everyone to admit that men are, in fact, women.

A belief that doesn’t stand up to biology or reality, only to a delusion.

We either share in their delusion….. or else!

Jenner’s, “Hardest Part About Being A Woman”

As you may or may not know … wait, who are we kidding? He’s all over the news, he has completely immersed himself into the media because he gets off on all of the attention. So you have most likely already seen the BuzzFeed interview of Bruce “Caitlyn” Jenner, entitled “Caitlyn Jenner on The Moment She Felt Most Proud to be a Woman” (sic). In this bit of his interview, he also discusses what he feels is the hardest part of being a woman. He said this:

Jenner - Hardest Part About Being a Woman

There you go folks! The hardest part of being a woman all comes down to: what to wear. 

Of course a man would think the hardest part of being a woman would boil down to clothes. In his autogynephile mind, all a woman is, is her clothing, because that’s what gets him off: dressing as a woman and, of course being seen as a woman.

We are all a part of his pornographic fantasy, nothing more.

This was posted in a group I belong to on Facebook, one that discusses gener critically; and here are what a couple of the womyn there had to say:

First Feminist:

“I was so furious. I posted to my page with this comment…

Woman of the year… The hardest thing about being a woman is what to wear…

Call me when your cramps hurt so bad you can’t walk.
Call me when you have a pregnancy scare.
Call me when men honk at you and make lewd gestures at you at twelve years old.
Call me when you don’t get paid adequately for your increasingly difficult labor, and you go home only to find more labor dictated by gender roles.
Call me when you are force married.
Call me when you are sold by a pimp and then blamed for being “in the business.”
Call me when your entire life’s choices are limited by decades of belittling and social conditioning, to the point where you self limit and call it a choice.

Call me when you stop being a stereotype of what the world wants from me.

The hardest part of my day is NEVER figuring out what to wear.  I defy roles you exalt. Bye.”

Second Feminist:

“It’s unbelievable! Out of all the issues that make being a woman difficult!? Doesn’t this just scream to everyone that this is what he truly believes: that to become a woman, one merely dresses in a certain way. Of course this is the most essential aspect to being a woman for Jenner; playing dressup is the aspect that gives him the greatest (erotic) thrill…despite its oh so many challenges! (eyeroll)…what a burden.”

It is inconceivable to me that anyone can take this man, or transgenderism itself, seriously. I mean, here is this group of people who could have been gender non-conforming people, brave warriors standing along side their gender non-conforming sisters and brothers in the lesbian and gay man communities. Instead, they choose to conform to strict gender roles, uncompromisingly adhered to stereotypes of the opposite sex. These completely gender CONFORMING people, transgenders, all believe that to be the opposite sex, one must only have to dress as the opposite sex and then to either drastically shorten or lengthen their hair, depending on which sex they wish to “identify as.”

Transgenders cannot live as they are, they cannot be their true authentic selves in the body they were born into for fear of retribution, so they wear the clothing that society has decided is only for the opposite sex, then they buzz off or grow out their hair (or, in the case of male transgenders, just wear a wig and you’re good!) and voila! They are the opposite sex!

Or in the case of about 80% of male transgenders, they wear the clothing that society has decided is for the opposite sex because they are autogynephiles. They, literally, get off on wearing “women’s clothing.” They also get off on being seen and treated as women. Going into the women’s bathroom, changing room, etc., also gets them off!

This is all so crazy, I cannot stand it! A man is voted Woman of the Year, taking the award away from women who are ground breakers like, Venus Williams, who has amassed 43 championship titles, won 3 Olympic Gold medals and has the fastest serve on record today. Or how about Tony award winning, Viola Davis, the first African American woman to win a Primetime Emmy Award for Outstanding Lead Actress in a Drama Series. Then, of course there is the first woman to become an Army Ranger, Capt. Kristen Griest, who overcame such incredible adversity and against all odds, surpassed both men and women who could not make it and she became the first female Army Ranger, opening the door for other women to not only become Army Rangers, but also Navy Seals!

There are incredible women out there and it is insulting to all of them, to all of us, when women’s magazines and organizations name a MAN to be their Woman of the Year!

This madness has to stop. Women need to rise up together and with one voice, demand that actual women get awarded for this and other awards. It is our time now, sisters! Rise Up!

“TERFs” Do Not Actually Exist, Fellows

I honestly cannot believe that we have to continue to discuss this over and over and over again; but I guess when you are dealing with juvenile young men with male privilege who have yet to have fully developed brains and older men with male privilege going through midlife crisis, not to mention all of the women who, for some disturbed reason, support all of these men, then I guess womyn just have to continue to calmly stay on point and tell these men and the women who support them, again, that they are wrong. In so many ways, yes, but I am focusing on this for a minute.

I am not sure how this has come about, but “TERF” is not an identity. “TERFs” do not actually exist. They are not a community of womyn within the larger LGB community. “TERFs” are not a group of womyn working and plotting against transgenders. They are certainly not working together to exterminate transgenders, something of which I have been accused.

“TERF” is, once again, a slur. This slur is used to silence womyn. None of us actually “identify” as “TERFs.” This slur is actually thrust upon us and shoved down our throats by men who are so upset over the fact that there are womyn out there who are not falling to our knees in our utter devotion to porn sick, cross dressing, autogynephile men who claim to be women, but expect to still be treated and adored as men, with their male privilege, and their penises, intact.

“TERF” may have been created by two heterosexual women trying to give a name to radical feminists who do not wish to have males in their private spaces, but just every other slur in the world, its meaning has changed, morphed into some crazy kind of battle cry for males to use as they attack womyn mercilessly online, threatening to assault, rape, even kill womyn who do not agree with them and who do not fall all over themselves to believe that men (or boys) can be women (or girls).

The slur, “TERF” is a term that includes –all- womyn (and some gay men) who know the truth about biology, all womyn who understand even the most basic science. I am not a radical feminist, but I have been called a “TERF” over and over again, just for stating my opinion, an opinion I am allowed to have and share online or anywhere, an opinion that I share with hundreds of thousands of other womyn (and some men).

I don’t know how much more plainly I can state this, dear reader. “TERF” is not an identity, it is a slur used to silence womyn. We who are labeled as such are not the violent ones here. We do not issue threats of violence. We do not keep lists of male or female transgenders with their contact information so that we may harass them in real life.

Oh yes, dear reader, you didn’t know that? Male transgenders and their female allies keep lists of womyn who they decide are “TERFs.” They say they keep such lists so as to warn other transgenders to steer clear of us, but what they are really doing is targeting women. They keep us and as much personal information about us on a list they call “TERF tracker.” One of the founders of “TERF Tracker” was a woman who aligned herself with the most violent transgenders against womyn. She later tried to align herself with womyn who know the truth about transgenders, but she did so as a ruse, to befriend women (and a few men) so that she could gain information on us. She then turned back to transgenders and now runs a gay and lesbian liberation page that does nothing more than attack womyn like me, womyn who know that men cannot become women and that women cannot become men.

This woman is one of those who makes the assertion that “TERF” is an identity women take on and share with other womyn. She puts forth the idea that a woman who is not a friend to other women is the “leader” of the “TERFs” when there is no such organization of “TERFs,” so there can be no such “leader.”

The other founder of “TERF Tracker” was later found out to be a violent child rapist, He even admitted as much. Just another entitled, cross dressing, porn sick, autogynephile who was later found out to be a child rapist or a rapist of women.

But I digress. I do not wish for my blog to be about these women, one of whom aligns herself with violent transgenders, the other of whom is a woman who enjoys attacking womyn, outing anonymous bloggers such as myself, or that man, that child rapist. They deserve no time or attention on my blog.

No, this post was intended to assert to you, dear reader that “TERF” is not an identity, not a label womyn call themselves, and certainly not a term womyn “reclaim” in an effort to take its power away. Since we never claimed it as ours in the first place, we certainly cannot “reclaim” it now!

No, “TERF” is and has always remained a slur used to silence, threaten, and harass womyn. Make sure to spread this truth around, my sisters, as those who do not know what a “TERF” is are vulnerable to believing the transgenders who call themselves “activists” when they try to assert that “TERF” is an identity we call ourselves. Post about “TERF” being a slur, tweet about “TERF” being a slur, talk to your friends about “TERF” being a slur. Just get out there, sisters, and inform others about this slur!!

Make sure that your friends all know that this label, “TERF,” that is shoved down our throats by transgenders, the very people who claim that self-identification is the most important thing, the people who claim that people who ID them as someone they are not (i.e., “misgender,” which is a misnomer, it should actually be, “missexed”) are actually committing violence against them, the people, mostly men, who claim that “TERF” is an identification that we use to describe ourselves when in reality, they force the label onto us, make sure that your friends know that “TERF” is nothing more than a slur used against women, to silence us and to threaten violence against us.

I call upon all of you, dear readers, to tell, post, tweet, text, whatever you need to do, to make sure that people know that “TERF” is not an ID, it is a slur!

My Coming Out

As you know, this is an anon blog where I write about women & lesbians & butches & how transgenderism is misogynistic, appropriating women’s names, language, & culture.

It’s not a very large blog, but I am pretty proud of what I have written thus far.

Somehow, a semi-famous, narcissistic, abusive woman found out who I was. I believe an old & now ex friend told her at MichFest. She actually told quite a few women over the few years that I have been writing, so I was not going to be able to be anon forever.

I believe that some women really seemed to like my blog & she knew who this secret blogger was so it made her feel important to tell people.

I know of at least 2 people she told at MichFest & she met this woman irl there, so what better way to feel important to a semi-famous person than to tell her this big secret?

I digress….. this woman & I got into an argument the other day – she accused me of being abusive, but the actual truth is that she gave as good as she got. It was mutually scathing.

During the course of this argument, she tried to out me by dropping my blog name right there on a public page. Fortunately, I help admin that page (still do, though she tried to get the other admin to remove me), so I was able to delete her comment. But I now had this hanging over my head – a way to silence me for fear that she would drop the bomb again if she got pissed at me again, during another argument. And next time, I might not be able to delete it bc it might not be on my page.

So, after a lot of thinking, I decided that, instead of being silenced by the likes of this narcissist, I think I will just come out myself & tell everyone who I am. As long as she knows & I have this hanging over my head, I have no power or balance, you feel me?

So I want to take back my power & take it away from her by outing myself before she does. Being backed into a corner like this & having to out myself is not ideal, but it’s better than being in fear that she will out me on a whim.

So, ok….. thanks for listening, sisters 💚 …. whew, here goes….

I am also known as Parker Wolf.

Let’s Talk About Male Violence

Note: in this and other blog post(s), you will notice that I use women and females as well as men and males interchangeably. That is because I reject the silly notion that female and male are sexes while woman and man are genders. A woman is an adult female and a man is an adult male, so they work hand-in-hand and can be used interchangeably.


Let’s talk about male violence. Because it is a real thing and it takes the spirits, souls, and lives of women. Male violence is real, whether it is males or male transgenders doing the violence, it is the same across the board and we should not be afraid to name it.

Male violence.

Male violence is men, including those who claim to be women, on Twitter threatening to rape women, simply because women disagree with them on any number of topics, from feminism, to gaming, to knowing that male transgenders are not women.

Male violence is men, including those who claim to be women, posting about raping and dismembering a woman’s body, simply because… you guessed it, women disagree with men.

Male violence is men on a website posting about their experiences with prostituted women, calling them whores and describing, sometimes in great detail, every degrading thing they did to these women.

Male violence is assaulting a woman on the bus or train because she is wearing a skirt and he knows no one will stop him.

Male violence is raping an unconscious woman because she is drunk or drugged and he knows that in –this- society, he can get away with it.

Male violence encompasses these and so, so many other things because male violence is everywhere, in our thoughts, our language, in the way we view women in this society as disposable and inferior, because men are in positions of power in this world and they make the laws and then break them without a second thought. They are the rulers and they view women as their subjects who should and do everything to support, please, and nurture men while they start more wars, destroy more lands, kill more species into extinction, and commit so many genocides, I sometimes wonder if men are our Extinction Level Event.

Don’t believe me? Then let’s take a look at the numbers, shall we, dear reader?

According to the United Nations Office on Drug and Crime’s 2013 Global Study of Homicide (, of ll the people, men and women, who are “convicted of intentional homicide” (pg 15, figure), 95%, globally are male, while 5% are women.

Broken down into region, the numbers show that in Europe, the numbers of people who are convicted or murder show that 92% of them are male and 8% of them are female. In Asia, it is 95% males and 5% females. I know what you’re thinking, dear reader: it –has- to be different in the Americas, right?!? I’m afraid you are incorrect, the numbers of those convicted of homicides in the Americas is 96% male and 4% female.

When you look at victims of homicide, globally, you will see that 79% of them are male and 21% of them are female (pg 15, figure); but in 95% of those cases, males are the ones doing the killing.

Most of the above male violence towards men can be attributed to gang and organized crime, but when it comes to women, of the 93,000 women murdered in 2012, globally, almost HALF of them (43,600) were killed by an intimate partner or family member, while in Asia, Europe, and Oceania, OVER HALF of the women killed there were killed by an intimate partner or family member. When it comes to men, though only 6% of males (20,000), globally, were killed by an intimate partner or family member (pg 55).

The numbers dip slightly in the Americas where 38% of women who were murdered, were killed by an intimate partner or family member, while the male’s number drops to 5% (pg 55, figure 2.2.6).

Male violence.

It kills women and men alike. 96% percent of all murderers in the Americas killed women and men, while only 4% of those convicted of murder were women. This says a LOT, doesn’t it?

So when male transgenders try to blame women, whom they so callously force the slur of “TERF” down our throats, for murdering other male transgenders, they are blaming the wrong sex for these horrible crimes.

Male violence is the culprit there, as it always is… 96% of all murderers out there are men killing women, men killing men, men killing female transgenders, and men killing male transgenders.

So, dear transgender (and their sheep) reader, remember this, the next time you tell a woman that her “misgendering” you is an act of violence, the next time you tell a woman that radical feminists want to kill all transgenders, the next time you tell a woman that radical feminism works to exterminate all transgenders, the next time… remember that it is males who are out there doing the killing.

Finally, I wanted to talk about how male transgenders commit male violence as well, they are not exempt. Male transgenders, or “trans women” are just as likely to commit violent crimes as males, in other words, transitioning and taking female hormones does -not- decrease the likelihood that a male will stop committing violent crime. The same is true for female transgenders, or “trans men”: they are more likely to commit violent crime than females but just as likely as males. So female transgenders have an increased risk of committing violent crimes compared to females.

That information was taken from this 30 year study of transgenders: and it reads, in part:

“Second, regarding any crime, male-to-females had a significantly increased risk for crime compared to female controls (aHR 6.6; 95% CI 4.1–10.8) but not compared to males (aHR 0.8; 95% CI 0.5–1.2). This indicates that they retained a male pattern regarding criminality. The same was true regarding violent crime. By contrast, female-to-males had higher crime rates than female controls (aHR 4.1; 95% CI 2.5–6.9) but did not differ from male controls. This indicates a shift to a male pattern regarding criminality and that sex reassignment is coupled to increased crime rate in female-to-males. The same was true regarding violent crime.”

In fact, male transgenders do not just commit violence against women and men, including each other, they commit violence against themselves! As that same study that I linked to above, states: “This suggests that male-to-females are at higher risk for suicide attempts after sex reassignment, whereas female-to-males maintain a female pattern of suicide attempts after sex reassignment (Tables S1 and S2).”

This indicates to me that transitioning is not a cure for whatever is ailing transgenders and that violence follows some of them, even to their grave.

Male violence is a real thing, dear reader. It is the reason that sex segregated spaces exist: not to eliminate violence against women, because in this society, that is impossible; but segregating private spaces like bathrooms, dressing rooms, jail cells, shelters, etc., at least creates an atmosphere where male violence against females is less likely.

Do not misunderstand me, I am not saying or insinuating that all male transgenders are violent, just as I am not saying that all males are violent. What I –am- saying is that male transgenders are just as likely to commit violence as males; and enough males are violent that we require sex segregated spaces for women’s safety.

Women’s safety should be paramount here. If men who claim to be women really were women, they would not only applaud that thinking, they would demand it!

Political and Born This Way Lesbians – Why The Battle?

Last night, I found and was reading a post on Facebook from several days ago that was a discussion between several women who identified either as political lesbians or born this way lesbians.

First, some quick definitions so we all know where we’re at on this:

A lesbian is an adult female who is attracted to other women physically, mentally, emotionally, sexually, and intimately. There are no penises on lesbians or in lesbian relationships (so no men or males).

A born this way lesbian is a lesbian who feels she was born gay, that being a lesbian was not a choice for her.

A political lesbian is a little trickier, because there is more than one definition. Back in the ‘70s and ‘80s, a political lesbian was a heterosexual woman who was tired of men personally and politically, so she became celibate and called herself a lesbian. But she was a lesbian in name only for political reasons.

A few years ago, the definition morphed into a woman who came to her lesbianism through her politics, but she was a lesbian in every way.

Now, the definition of a political lesbian is that a woman chooses to be gay because of her politics. Through her work in politics and activism, she realized that heterosexuality was a learned behavior to further oppress women and instead of continuing in that, she decided to make the conscious decision to become a lesbian, but she is a lesbian in every way. Quite a few political lesbians under this definition are late in life lesbians, becoming so after one or several relationships with men and maybe even some children.

I think that covers it. I am sure that if I am wrong on any point that someone will come along and correct me (well, except for the definition of a lesbian)!

Anyway, on to my post. As I was saying, I observed a post between some born this way and political lesbians and almost all of them were being respectful of each other and not arguing against each other’s beliefs, simply arguing for their own beliefs. It was a nice discussion. At first.

Then came a couple of political lesbians who so strongly believed that both heterosexuality and homosexuality are choices that women make, they were convinced that they were right, they were convinced that born this way lesbians were not only wrong, but ignorant for holding their beliefs.

Of course, what I failed to talk about when I was laying out definitions of both born this way lesbians and political lesbians is that neither can prove that they are right or that the other is wrong. These are feelings, you see, beliefs based on how women feel. So while one can believe strongly that they are right, they cannot prove that they are right because, well, it’s kind of like religion: they have faith that they are who they are based on their internal feelings as women and lesbians.

So I was kind of shocked to be reading this, not only the part about the political lesbians thinking they were right and born this way lesbians were ignorant, but the blatant disrespect from these couple of political lesbians toward the born this way lesbians was something I have seen, but that I had hoped we were passed by now.

It was like watching the bad parts of religion, the “my religion is the only right religion and you all are going to hell!” kind of thing; and it was very, very sad to watch.

It made me wonder why we battle so much over this. Why aren’t we just a bunch of lesbians who believe that we arrived at lesbianism in different ways, but that we were all here now and working together?

Based on some of what the one or two disrespectful political lesbians said in that thread, I suppose they would say that by believing one is born a lesbian, one must also submit that others are born straight women and if a woman is born straight then she is born into a life of sub servitude and sex, whether she likes it or not, whether it is painful or not, whether she wants it or not. So by believing one is born a lesbian instead of it being a choice that one makes, one is then buying into and supporting women’s oppression.

That seems kind of harsh, doesn’t it? That because a woman believes she was born a lesbian, she is supporting, ignorantly, women’s oppression?

I don’t believe that for one second. As you may remember from the last post that I did on this subject, I a one of the lesbians who considers herself born a lesbian. I didn’t make the choice to become a lesbian, it was not my choice. It was not my choice to be bullied, bashed, and harassed for being who I am. It was not my choice to be left out in the civil rights department simply because I love women. It was not my choice to not be able to get married simply because I was born a lesbian. Knowing all that we know, I find it difficult that ANY woman would choose this. Even later in life lesbians. I believe they were born lesbians, but they were just in denial for a while and now they are realizing their true selves.

BUT, even though I believe all of that, I still respect political lesbians enough to support them as lesbians, as sisters. I am of the “live and let live” model when it comes to other lesbians. So, I support political lesbian’s right to not only believe whatever they wish, but to also express those beliefs. I support their fight against women’s oppression in any way they can fight it; because, after all, isn’t that what we are ALL fighting for here?

Remember that, sisters. Because yes, we may have come to lesbianism in different ways, on different paths, but we are both discriminated against. We are both denied rights. We are both harassed. We are both bashed. We are both beaten. We are both killed. For being lesbian women. And as lesbian women, we are both fighting for the same thing: to end women’s oppression by liberating women from men and this patriarchy.

Let’s end this battle, sisters!

Targeted By Misogynists

I guess it was just a matter of time. I was targeted by a hate group who, ironically, decided my Facebook page was a “TERF hate page.”



Forget the fact that I have publicly stated more than once that I am not a radfem.

Forget the fact that I have publicly denounced male violence of -any- kind, including male violence perpetrated by or against transgenders.

Forget the fact that I have stated publicly that transgenders should be protected from discrimination, i.e., protected from being fired, evicted, violence, etc.

Forget ALL of that because I write about how this patriarchal society should abolish gender and the accompanying gender stereotypes so that women and men and girls and boys could be and dress however they want without having to say they are the opposite sex because that, the sex part, is immutable. One can never change their sex.

So, because I write about that and because I write about male violence, I am erroneously labeled both a “TERF” and a hate site, even though the only posts I currently have on my Facebook page are links to my blog posts here; AND I am labeled as such by an actual hate site that promotes hatred and violence against women.

Make no mistake. “TERF” is a slur and the only people who use it are bigots, i.e., people who hate women and wish to silence us at all costs, including using a slur against us.

This thinly veiled threat did not go unnoticed by me, dear reader and it should not go unnoticed by you either. Because these hate filled people are going after every woman with a voice, every woman with an opinion that does not mimic the trans narrative; and they do this to silence us.

I may have been gone from my blog for a few months, but I will not be silenced. Not by misogynistic men who think following my Facebook page and blog will scare me into keeping quiet. 

Bring it, bigots.

I have been dealing with your kind for a couple of decades now and you do not scare me.