Banned But Not Forgotten

Yesterday, I was permanently banned from a site that calls themselves a butch-femme site.

Now, this is a site that is owned and operated by a femme and it *used* to be a place for butches and femmes to meet, chat, flirt, or just hang out with one another. But as the TransCult has swept the nation, so has it swept that site, making it a transgender site now.

Ok, first, don’t get me started on what I think about women who think they are men but instead of hanging out with straight people on straight sites, they take over a lesbian site and make their home there. I get it, they are still female and straight women want dick. It’s just a fact of life. It doesn’t make straight women bigots for wanting dick, it just makes them, you guessed it, straight women!

Hence why these women who call themselves men don’t hang out with the straight crowd is pretty clear: they. Are. Not. Men! So, they fall back onto what they know: lesbians. Because we lesbians, we women, have to take in everyone. We cant just be a bunch of lesbians on a lesbian site hanging out and having fun. NO! We have to let in the female transgenders and then cater to them by calling all butches “he” because, we don’t know, maybe that butch over there has decided that “he” is a man now!

So fucking ridiculous. Seriously.

Consequently, slowly, over time, all of these females, these women, who call themselves men or call themselves “male ID’d butches” (an oxymoron if I’ve ever heard one!) take over the site and the femmes there let it happen and just shift their focus from butches to these man wannabes. Suddenly it’s a trans-femme site, instead of a butch-femme site. Which is also ridiculous because femmes don’t partner with men, whether they are biological men or women who call themselves men. With a few exceptions (femmes partnering with other femmes, butches partnering with other butches). Femmes partner with butches and butches partner with femmes. Neither are, want to be, or want to be *with* men.

I guess I’m saying that it was no great loss to be banned from the site since it was all trans, all the time and those of us who mourned the loss of the butch-femme site had to keep it to ourselves; and believe me, sister, there are a LOT of unhappy campers on your site who wish it wasn’t a transgender site but a site for actual butches and femmes! I’m hearing from them!

But I digress, because here’s what really gets me about being banned from the site. Here is the part that should make every woman’s blood boil: she banned me from the site because of what I said on ANOTHER site! Even though I held my tongue and played nice on her site, not breaking any rules and even being helpful by keeping track of all of the name changes that go on there, because I spoke some truths about transgenders on youtube (my vlog posts), I was labeled a transphobe, “not safe,” and banned from her site.

This is the big take away here: a Woman silenced another Woman, not only for the sake of transgenders, but because she caught the woman saying things with which she didn’t agree on *another site.* She banned a woman from her site because of the OPINIONS that woman expressed on another site!

This is how far we’ve come, dear reader! Women not only silencing other women for the sake of men, but now also for the sake of “men!” Transgender egos are so very fragile that they cannot handle the truth coming at them from anywhere and demand that we are obedient to them on every site on the internet, lest we be banned from a site over which they have complete control. Control based on fear and stupidity. Fear that if one does not agree with them, one will be shunned and branded a bigot, or worse, the slur, “TERF;” and stupidity because I just find it stupid that women would (a) center their lives on men and (b) enable transgenders delusions instead of embracing the truth.

The Cult of Gender

Gender
Is a social construct
It harms women
By assigning
Sexual stereotypes;
And by pitting
Woman against woman,
Sister against sister.

Gender
Permeates our very lives
With rigid protocols
Of how a woman should be
Who she should be.
Should she deviate,
She will be shamed. Scorned.
Corrected.

Gender
Is conditioning from birth.
This is why some
Mistake it for being innate.
But it’s taught
Crammed
Down our throats
From the moment we enter this world,
Wearing pink or blue beanies.

Gender non-conforming people
We are the pioneers.
Showing the world
What it would look like
Without gender
Without sexual stereotypes
Without patriarchy,
We, who buck gender.

Women wearing “men’s clothes,”
Men wearing make-up and dresses
We are not trans!
Transgenders adhere strictly
To the sexual stereotypes
Of the opposite sex!
Claiming that personal traits
MAKE them the opposite sex!

But no!
They are not the opposite sex
And they never will be!
To accept one’s body
Nourishes one’s soul.

Gender
Is a cancer.
It is to be plucked out
By any means necessary!
It is time, my sisters
For a revolution,
‘for dismantling the patriarchy,
And for destroying the Cult of Gender
Once and for all!

Fly

In Love… & Solidarity…

Darkness falls
Across the country
A bitter pill to swallow
As he steps forward,
Arm raised
Standing
With my sisters
We prepare to fight
With foreboding
A task that seems
Too great
Suffragettes
Fought before us
Leading the way
Into
The light
Now
It is our turn
To make a stand
Against tyranny
Misogyny so fierce
It threatens to erase us
From existence
We must
Together
Stand against a hate
That burns like fire
Soar above
The violence & rhetoric
Show the world
We will not fade away
Teach our little sisters
To fly

Vlog Post: Here, I Talk About “Misgendering”

Good afternoon, sisters! This is my next vlog post at youtube. It’s on “misgendering,” which, honestly, isn’t even a real thing, much less suicide-inducing!

If you like my videos, would you mind voting them up at youtube? I am getting down votes & have no trouble imagining transgenders & other members of their cult voting my videos down, en masse! :o/

I hope you like this one! Let me hear from you, sisters!

 

Delusions of Gender: Sexual Stereotypes Do Not Define Women & Men

Transgender seven-year-old laughed at by classmates after telling them: “When I grow up, I want to be a girl”

Ok, first:

“I want to be as natural as possible.”

“Kate also hopes to have a number of operations in the future, including a tracheal shave, reassignment surgery, facial feminisation surgery, a chin reduction, rhinoplasty, a brow bone shave and a mini eyebrow lift.”

SO natural! /sarcasm

Next:

“The teenager said she plans to get as many surgeries as possible on the NHS – because all of the procedures would cost around £60,000.”

So other people are going to pay for him to continue his delusion.

Finally – could this shit be more sexist? Sexual stereotypes of women make him think he is a woman bc men are not allowed these things – they must be women.

“Kate Cooch*, then three, is pictured playing with dolls before her transition”

“She also played with the girls in her class, not the boys.”

“She said: “I still didn’t feel right. I started wearing make-up and bought handbags – I was a very girly gay. I felt more myself, but didn’t feel completely like me.”

“After coming out to her loved ones, the teenager immediately threw out her boys’ clothes, swapping her wardrobe for tight dresses, towering heels and skinny jeans.”

““I feel so much happier now that I’m living as a woman. I love wearing heels and tight dresses to go clubbing in. It’s a huge weight off my shoulders.””

Here we have yet another male who uses sexual stereotypes to define what a woman is. We should not be enabling these people in their delusions!

We should be teaching our boys that they can like dolls, dresses, skinny jeans, high heels, long hair, & makeup & it’s ok! That they can be feminine while still being boys & men, that there is nothing wrong with them liking these things, & that these things do not a woman make!

Conversely, we should be teaching our girls that they can be masculine while still being girls & women, that there is nothing wrong with liking “boy” toys, “boy/men’s” clothing, “boy” games, etc., & that these things do not a man make!

This society has become so rigid in it’s belief in sexual stereotypes & who is allowed to like what. We need to do our best to keep writing, keep sharing, keep standing against the delusion of gender so we can convince people that biology is real & sexual stereotypes should finally be abolished!

 

*In case you do not read the article & get pissed at his last name, it’s his mom’s last name. He is estranged from his father who is divorced from his mother.

Vlog Post: Straight People Appropriating Lesbian Culture

Hello sisters – Happy New Year!

I know I haven’t written in a while & this year, I resolve to write more posts & more often! I also wanted to give vlogging a try. So I created a video of me talking about straight people appropriating Lesbian culture, trying to force us to change our language, & how Lesbians should band together, stand up, & say “no more!”

Let me know what you think!

Oh, PS: I didn’t realize how loud my music was until I reviewed the video, but I am assured that I can still be heard & that it isn’t too distracting. I will make sure to vlog in silence next time. 😉

For Male Transgenders, It’s All About Perception

 

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Mary Jane gave permission to share her post. Thanks Mary Jane! 😊 💚

I have been dealing with trans activists for … well over a decade now and I can tell you, without a doubt, that the “bathroom issue” is not about “just needing to pee.” It is completely, 100% about perception.

Men who desire, actually demand to use women’s restrooms (and to be admitted into all women-only spaces) do so because they wish to be perceived as women. If it were actually about their safety, because they are attacked in the men’s restroom, then (a) this country would finally be able to have an honest discussion about male violence; and (b) these men would be ok with a single stall “gender neutral” or “family” restroom.

But they are not ok with that. They see it as an insult, as if they are not actually viewed as women.

See? Perception.

Instead, they accuse women like me – a feminist who puts women first – of violenceand hate (as a gay male friend of mine did on my Facebook, when I posted this there) , not the men they claim to be so afraid of in the men’s restroom. Women like me are labeled “TERFs” – for those who don’t know, that is supposed to mean, “trans exclusionary radical feminist” (or for some of the more violent of these men, they use “extermatory” instead of “exclusionary,” to deflect their own violent behavior onto women who are not being violent) – and we, along with our opinions, are written off as women who are violent, whose voices don’t count, who should be hated and reviled. These men (and women) can do all of that just by calling any woman who speaks out or with whom they do not agree, TERFs.

See, TERF is like a modern day witch and these men and their followers are on “witch hunts.” Women all over are afraid to speak their truths because (a) a LOT of these men claiming to be women are violent; and (b) they are afraid of being labeled a TERF; a term that will both silence and ostracize them, once they are labeled as such.

I take great issue with the slur, TERF, and I have written about it no less than twice on my blog.

First, a term like this is actually used as a slur and therefore should not even be used at all. Almost always, the person using the slur is using it to be violent toward the woman at whom they are tossing the slur, as in: “all TERFs should die in a fire (diaf)”, “kill all TERFs,” “all TERFs should be round up and shot, along with their friends,” etc. I can provide screen shots of such violence and there are also websites dedicated to showing the world the violence behind the use of TERF, such as terfisaslur.com.

Second, it is not an accurate term, at all; in that, I mean that (a) the people who use this slur against women – & I have to say “people” there because, unfortunately, it isn’t just men who use this slur against women, women who put men first in their lives also use this slur against other women – use it against ALL women, not just radfems.

For example: although I am, among other things, a gender abolitionist, I am not a radfem, yet posting something like this in public will have people calling me a TERF. I have been called a TERF many times, usually with violent rhetoric involved; and (b) we feminists are not “trans” exclusionary (or especially extermatory, since we are not violent & wish for everyone to be free of violence!), we are *men* exclusionary.

By that, I mean that we believe that men should not be allowed into women-only spaces, period. If a woman wants to call herself a man & go into the men’s restrooms or other men-only spaces, more power to her! Because these women are not violent pervs! They are not pretending to be men so that they may violate, assault, or rape men. Oh, I know, not all men are violent, therefore not all men claiming to be women are violent.

But (a) studies show that men claiming to be women are just as prone to violence as other men, (b) while not all of them are violent, enough of them are that we need sex segregated spaces (have you heard the “poisoned M&Ms” story?), and (c) not all violent and perverted men going into women’s restrooms for nefarious purposes are transgenders, but now, all they need to do is claim to be women & the doors are supposed to swing wide open!

As I said, not all of them are violent – and I need to add something here, because I thought that I did, but I don’t see it….. women like me, we are not filled with hate on this issue. We believe that transgenders should be able to have the same basic rights as all others. To be able to live as they are without the fear of (or the threat of) violence, to be able to live as they wish to without the threat of eviction, being fired, or being denied healthcare. But basic human rights should not extend into and replace the rights of others, of women.

Of course, when men don’t want women in their spaces, they have a tendency to become violent and the women leave; and these men are not called TERFs, ever – their request for man-only space is respected!

But I digress! Coming back to perception, these men want to be welcomed into women-only spaces because in their minds, they will then be seen as women, finally!

Even though a vast majority of them (if I remember correctly, the number is up over 80%) do not even bother w/the surgery and most of them (over half) don’t even bother w/hormones. They are just men calling themselves women & *poof* they’re supposed to be seen and treated as women. Oh and we better damn well be able to read their minds and know they are women or we’re gonna see some tantrums and maybe even some violence!

Tantrums and violence that you won’t see from me and butches like me who are “misgendered” – actually, the appropriate term would be “missexed” – all. the fucking. time!! Seriously, the woman that I am is so invisible to most people, but you don’t see me getting violent, threatening people, calling them names, suing them, going to the papers so they could do a story on my being missexed…. you will see none of that from me and butch women like me, simply because people think I’m a dude!

So, these men do not “just have to pee” or “just need to change” or “just want to listen to the festival’s musical talents” or anything else.

No, this is not simply because they want to quietly live “as women.” They have actual narcissistic reasons for basically forcing their way into women-only spaces and forcing their propaganda down our throats. Nope, they are trying to beat us into submission over this issue, not because they want to use the restroom or even bc they want to be safe while visiting a restroom; they do it bc they want to force everyone to share in their delusions, they want everyone to admit that men are, in fact, women.

A belief that doesn’t stand up to biology or reality, only to a delusion.

We either share in their delusion….. or else!